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Sex mit einer SubEin Dom berichtet: "BDSM ist wie ein Tanz". - Erkunde Mo Lishous Pinnwand „Dom/Sub“ auf Pinterest. Weitere Ideen zu erotik, seil kunst, bdsm. Wie sieht es mit Treue in einer BDSM-Beziehung aus? Ein Dom verrät, wie er Fremdgehen für sich definiert.

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Wie sieht es mit Treue in einer BDSM-Beziehung aus? Ein Dom verrät, wie er Fremdgehen für sich definiert. Ein Dom darf alles, oder? Na klar. Schließlich hat er das Sagen und wer soll ihm was vorschreiben? Sub etwa? Die hat ja nichts zu melden. Nun, wenn ein Dom auch Therapeut ist, dann ist das eventuell möglich. Wenn eine Sub BDSM nutzt, um sich selbst mal aus dem Alltag zu.

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Dom Sub MstrssA on June 16, at pm. My first question to him would be does your wife know about this lifestyle and his subs? What appeals to me the most is the intense cerebral connection — the mind play and the feelings it conjures in me, sometimes all day long the brain is, after all, the biggest sex organ. Fesselnde blonde Mädchen Anya Olsen liebt es Ihr lil Arsch Bälle tief there, I have a lot of questions but would like to speak privately if possible please……thank you. This Lizbijki is very common, and is used in the majority of BDSM scenes. This will cause a sub to Paar Sex Nrw great pride in the health Dom Sub presentation of their bodies. Consensual non-consensuality is a mutual agreement to act as if consent has been waived within safe, sane limits. We have a safe word and he knows where I Blasen Am Morgen the line. Im interested in becoming a Dom in my poly relationship. I want to be a good sub. Since you understand your full responsibilities do not shirk any of them. You can check out this Frauen Mit Drei Titten to get you started. Topping from the bottom is different than speaking up because someone is hurting you. A good dom is also humble, generous and kind, wants to know how you feel so he can make you happy, and allows Dom Sub express yourself without getting emotional. It has nothing to do with your Erotikmassage Rastatt issues. Or, read some kinky erotica on sites like SugarButch ChroniclesBellesaRemittance Girland BDSM Cafe. So long as all partners consent and enjoy these moments, this is A-OK, says Wetzlar Ladies De Littlea sex and relationships educator and writer. I am new to this lifestyle and trying to understand Sexdisco Nackt psychology.
Dom Sub Das Begriffspaar Dom und Sub ist eines der wahrscheinlich häufigsten, das man mit BDSM in Verbindung bringt und Sub eine beliebte Rolle. Nun, wenn ein Dom auch Therapeut ist, dann ist das eventuell möglich. Wenn eine Sub BDSM nutzt, um sich selbst mal aus dem Alltag zu. Sex mit einer SubEin Dom berichtet: "BDSM ist wie ein Tanz". Wie sieht es mit Treue in einer BDSM-Beziehung aus? Ein Dom verrät, wie er Fremdgehen für sich definiert.

Try doing some research before you insult others. Firstly, some of us subs enjoy being degraded. So you cannot use that as a point.

But my collar lets me know that my Master owns me, that we have spent a long time building our relationship to the point of receiving my collar.

I wear it with pride and choice. I can always leave freely if unhappy. What you are talking about is an abusive relationship, where someone does not have trust and is scared for their lives.

It is also not gender specific, men can be subs and women can be Dommes and some are switch. I am a female submissive and have always known that I am.

He would never hurt me abusively, we have safe words in place if I ever am uncomfortable, he will immediately stop. I trust him to the end of the earth.

If I was unhappy then I would simply talk about it and can always walk away. A Dom is never abusive- You need to learn the difference between an abusive relationship and a BDSM one.

Some of us enjoy power exchange and letting someone control you whether in the bedroom or in life. Some of us enjoy a spanking.

Maybe you should give it a go some time! Hi I am impressed with your comment. This is absolutely my word.

This submission comes from love, respect, trust. She love me so much, trust me so much, she submit herself to me, as to prove that I have nothing left that I can offer you.

This is absolute submission, and I feel so lucky, so proud, I love her more than anything else. Akash Thedominator gmail.

I am King… I am new to the community but semi new to the lifestyle. I also understand better of how to conduct n handle myself w my sub….

Hi miss haney… I wanted to say i enjoyed reading your post. I appreciate your view and expression of love, mindfulness, care and more for your Dom.

Thank you. I have been honest with her and communicate but missing her needs somehow. Can you provide me any advice. I do find several women who might find emotional ties with me.

What can i ask them to investigate? This is not something you force a woman into; It is not sick. Cuz im a female and im the dom.

Which means my sub is male. Its not about ego you ignorant and i mean that as stupid ass.. It not at all what you think.. I am looking for a educated lesson.

I am female dom but just getting into this. I have a male sub. I am much interested on instruction. Any comments or suggestion appreciated. YOU ARE SICK are you lonely?

Why are you here? Go read a book! Why else would you have done research on It and ended up here? Open your mind to the many, and I mean many orgasms you could have.

Once they find a common ground, then they may proceed. Everything is consensual and most of the time in writing.. A true dominant who respects and loves their submissive will not cross this line and always has safe words in place in case hard limits are experienced between the two.

I pay my bills and i am in control of my house and all that goes on. We have discussed terms before this started. We have a safe word and he knows where I draw the line.

Male or female, they are creating a loving relationship. And would you feel the same way of it were a woman dominating a man? If I enjoy a raw steak and a cold beer then even though I am a woman I can have it.

If I want to stay home and be a mother then I can. That my dear is femism; the freedom for a woman to choose to do what she wants regardless of what you or any other person thinks is appropriate.

And yes that includes giving up control to a man, or woman. Or on the flip side taking control of a man, or a woman, and being the dominant partner.

Please stop using sexism disguised as feminism to shame women into being what you think they should be. Well, considering the majority of submissives are in an empowering role in their daily lives we, for the most part, choose to relinquish control to someone we trust with our bodies and spirit.

For example, I am an Army pilot and by no means being taken advantage of. Typical modern feminist. What ever happened to the good old feminism of giving women choices?

You are a judgmental fool, lady. If you are interested or if you know anyone who is interested please contact. You idiot this is a fetish that a lot of girls and men like to be controlled so bring that feminist bs somewhere else.

Whoever you are, this is simple. So then, what if that woman wants to be controlled? There is nothing saying that she must be tortured either.

That being said, do you feel that the reverse is true as well? No man should be controlled by a woman? Agreed upon.

Even under contract sometimes, for both parties to behave in specific ways. I am a dominatrix. I dominate other females and males alike.

I have two slaves of opposing genders. It has nothing to do with your emotional issues. Get over your damage. MAYBE YOUR THE SICK ONE IF YOUR ON A SITE READING THROUGH IDEADS THAT ARE OBVIOUSLY CONTRARY TO YOUR OWN JUST TO BE ABLE TO JUDGE THOSE NOT LILE YOU.

Some subs want nothing more then to be collared, owned, paint therapy…. Men are subs too. Women are Doms also. Being either dominant or submissive is in our nature and never EVER about abuse.

I crave that safe sub space to just kneel and feel. Not be in charge. I hope you can continue your journey to knowledge on this lifestyle choice free from judgment.

I am an alpha female. I long to please, nurture and take care of my loved ones. And I would do anything to please her so I want to learn everything I possibly can.

Thank you for shedding light on this fantastic element to human sexuality. I look forward to more. I just want to say thank you!!!!! This and your other material has helped me explain so much to those around me.

It has helped me expand not only my own knowledge and sexuality, but others around me as well. For some reason I feel like you are in a position to help me.

I am a bisexual woman in a relationship with a man I love. I have always been interested in bdsm, but now I feel like I have to rely on it to climax.

Part of me feels like this might be due to feeling distracted by my need for a female interaction. I wish I could turn off these thoughts and just enjoy being with my man like I used to.

I would talk it through with your man. Let him know your needs and your wants. Get the same from him, and see if you can work it out. I thought so as well after I sent in the question.

I think it just helped to write it out. However, your response is very helpful, especially the last part.

Dear Lady if I was you, I would address your concerns with your male dom. Your urges to have female contact could be added into part of the scene. You could have a certain cue for when she would be a good reward.

Maybe you have been a very very patient submissive and she is an added bonus. Either way be honest. The guy will most likely want to please you as much as you do.

Good Luck! Yeah, talking with your partner is essential, or else, the relationship goes to crap either way because of unfufilled needs.

I am a older woman have had this feeling run in and out of my life and I know this is definetly what I want to do. Am now taking this seriously.

I want to be able to be great in what I am going to engage in the near future and as much info about this subject is definetly welcomed. My girlfriend and I have spoken on a couple of occasions about myself becoming more dominant.

Not only on the bedroom but in our relationship as well. I am already very Alpha. I do have some questions about BDSM in everyday life, not just in sex.

I would personally like to know how i can get involved in the bdsm scene. It seems like i cant find any info anywhere. It depends on where you are.

Head to fetlife. Recently he has introduced other women supposedly to enhance my pleasure. But believes I need to trust that he knows what I need.

Thank you for your article. What advice can you provide for a collaring ceremony as described? What should I do and have her do to drive home that I am her Master in more that just the bedroom though I am a very sexually enthusiastic male?

What would you do in this situation with your own sub? Your guidance would be greatly appreciated. For something as personal as a collaring ceremony, my only advice is general: tell her what she means to you, tell her what you expect from her, tell her what she should expect from you.

Interesting Insight in to Dom v sub dynamics. I would like to know more about how I can be the Dom as a female to my male partner. Hello I love these articles and I feel like there are limited places to go for reliable information of becoming a Dom..

I am curious on more rules and punishments and how they are established and inforced is there a reliable source for more basics or possibly can you elaborate on the finer details of dominants.

Thank you very much, comments like these are always appreciated. I have some ideas brewing and should get some more words out soon. But if you really want to learn some new stuff I offer one on one bdsm coaching as well.

I am a sub, and he has Dom tendencies that could easily come out if he let them. Is there anything else I should do? Or is it wrong for me to be sending him info?

Sending him info is never a bad idea. Encouraging him to act more honestly, and dominantly is great as well. Just know it will be hard for him, out of love and respect.

Your job is to encourage, and reward, without adding pressure or anxiety. Thank you so much for this!!!

It helped so much me and my partner are new to this and wanting to do it the right way! Do you have any more articles on rules?

That we could use during the day like while we are away from each other at work? I am new to being a dom and have been with my fiancee for 7 years.

We have established some guidelines but there is one that I want to do that she does not. And that is for me to use a crop and flogger on her.

She says it brings back to many bad memories. Also being tied and blindfolded at the same time. How can I get her to understand that I am not like that jerks that hurt her and will not hurt her but please her dearly with the situations?

All you can do is support her, and prove through actions that you respect, love, and protect her. That all you want is what is best for her. Everyone has their hard limits, and a lot of the time they will never lessen or go away.

Also, it might help to have her and you, and everyone to talk to a therapist. Very nice. I enjoyed this very much.

That relationship ended 10 yrs ago and know i have have a new sub relationship that came from a long time friend.

Ergo there is so much more information available now via internet. My sub now has truly given herself with complete submission and is expecting certain things.

She told me that our interaction over the past ten yrs of friendship has led to her submission and her request that i become her Dom. So the point of this is i want to make sure that i am and evolve into the Dom she needs.

And yes our feelings run very deep and i have earned her submission but the fact fact remains i never want to stop learning. Lord willing this will be the last sub i ever have.

Thnk you for your time. Sincerely, Forrest. THANK YOU!!! Enjoy it all very much,I am learning so much about this life style.

I must say he is great!!! WHAT about married Dom. No rules on any of this. Some live outside their marriage, others in it.

Some do it professionally almost exclusive to female Dommes , most recreationally. Some just do it for play, some full time.

Great question, one I talk about often in coaching. Dom and Sub or top and bottom are generic terms. Typically a Sir has a pet, or a sub. A Master has a slave.

Master and slave is considered to be for people on the full power-exchange end of the scale. Some people will make claims this way and that way on what it means, and what it takes to earn these titles, but the second part of this answer is the actual truth: You can call yourself, and your sub, anything you damn well please.

Im interested in becoming a Dom in my poly relationship. What is the best way to make this transition? Read every article you can find, have long discussions with your partners as to what they like, are expecting, and do not want.

Do you have any suggestions? Too many red flags popped up in your one comment for me to feel like this is a truly healthy relationship.

Him being able to see other people, but you not being able, is rarely a sign of a healthy relationship. Again, I could be wrong.

But the final red flag is the worst of them all. A strong Dom who cares about his sub and their relationship should welcome you questioning him. To succeed, a relationship needs trust, communication, and honesty.

Thank you very much for taking the time to answer my questions.. I will definitely consider your advice. Sean I like how you answered this question and as an educator on alternative lifestyles and a psychologist I agree with you.

There are red flags. My first question to him would be does your wife know about this lifestyle and his subs?

Or is he hiding this to fulfill his needs outside the marriage? I also agree with you on the branding as something that is not common.

I am working with a client who was in a very similar situation and is now dealing with some serious issues when he tired of her and left her to work through the break up alone.

She still has the branding and is seeking ways to cover it up. I would love to be your sub, and I respect you as a Dom. Hi Sean, I know this is a post from a while ago, but I just really wanted to comment on your answer.

What I want to say is this is the first site I have looked at that is about how to be a DOM and I have to say, I found your information to be great.

What I especially found wonderful in all your responses and especially to this situation, was your number one concern is always for the subs well-being and consent to all things.

You are encouraging them to have power in dangerous situations when they need to. I found one comment you made interesting and powerful, that it is role play, that is a great way to explain to people out there who may be in an abusive relationship that BDSM should be enjoyable and consensual and safe.

Thank you for telling people not only how BDSM should be but also for how it should not be. Do you have any tips of how to be a better female dom and be less shy about what I want him to do?

The way to deal with this is simple in theory : make a plan keep it simple, with no chance of any action being too much , and then follow through playing the role of the mistress.

Follow the plan carefully, and if he pushes back come back over the top. I watched Fifty Shades with my partner and he asked me if I would be interested in something like that.

And to be brutally honest the whole idea of it especially the bondage and different things like being spanked during sex.

Plus I think I could be very interesting. What should I do? I have a question for you. I have deeply enjoyed reading your article.

That would never be my goal. Instead, my goal is to set the bar to a point where my sub would never settle for someone half-assed. How to do this: treat them with the most care, attention, and respect as you possibly can.

Try to make their fantasies come true, scratch their desires, and be there for them when they need you. Thank you for this article. I have been in abisive relationships with men who presented themselves as DOM.

I have just entered a relationship with a man I met in hs. He told me he is a DOM but has been so sweet and polite I thought he was a fake.

The deeper our relationship gets… The more DOM he exhibits… But always with his concern for me first… I wish I had done more research before starting this path because I would have known the men before were abisive control freaks… My question for you is… What can I do to surprise my man and please him without being told?

Make him feel special. Do the things you know he will appreciate, and encourage him. If he is working hard to make your desires and fantasies come true, do the same for him.

Make him feel like the luckiest man in the world. My friend has recently asked me to enter a relationship where she is mistress and me her slave.

How can I bring this up without provoking an angry response? She has already warned me that she can be very harsh but that she will always look after me.

You need to talk with her about limits, desires, and expectations. Thanks for your interesting blog. I am new to this lifestyle and trying to understand dom psychology.

I find it hard to get my head around the idea that someone who loves me can talk to me like that. Nearly all fetish is rooted in the things which are most wrong in our minds.

This is why rape-play fetish is so very prevalent, and why degradation is so hot. Even the vanilla world likes dirty talking, which is just a mild form of it.

This is excellent information. Very helpful. Can you give a specific example of how Yi as a Somme might show my sub how he is cared for after the scene?

It has cured a lot of curiosities iv had about the lifestyle and has left me wanting to know more. I am a alpha female normally in control of everything however lately i find myself longing for a man that can captivate my mind as well as my body… a situation where for once i wont have to be in control.

I have met a man who wants to be my submissive. Having a frank, clear, discussion of the roles you and a partner will be undertaking during kinky sex is a must.

Some people even draw up contracts , which sounds v. A dom is short for dominant, aka the more aggressive person during a consensual BDSM scenario.

A dom might derive sexual pleasure from activities where they are in control of their submissive partner's climax through forced orgasms , ruined orgasms , or orgasm denial.

Other common dom activities might include the dominant partner using a remote control sex toy on the submissive partner, or a dom face-sitting also called queening on their partner.

A sub is short for submissive, aka the more submissive person during a consensual BDSM scenario. A sub might derive sexual pleasure from activities where they can be disciplined, punished, spanked, or otherwise dominated by their partner.

The sub in this dynamic might enjoy their partner controlling a remote control sex toy or panty vibe on them or being tied up during sex.

There should always be an understanding that this is a consensual dynamic and that no matter what role each person is playing, both have the right to stop play at any time if it gets uncomfy.

Even if the submissive is playing submissive, they should be able to pull the plug. Likewise for a dom! The term comes from vanilla ice cream being considered the "default" flavor.

Power exchange is consensual and in reality, it is the submissive that has the underlying control during the relationship exchange. The dominant is attempting to satisfy the submissive's kinks and desires.

The terms top and bottom are used as verbs or nouns to describe the physical play of SM but with less of a focus of the "sadist" and "masochist" part of the activity.

They can be used as synonyms for dominant and submissive. It can also be used to describe a club where these activities take place. It can also be a place to practice kinks safely and learn how to carry out activities and play.

The term dungeon monitors is used as a description of well-trusted BDSM members that volunteer to monitor dungeons and look out for infractions, distress, or any other form of misconduct or non-consent.

The term flogger is used to describe a tool or whip used in sexual scenes. The action of flogging refers to impact play. Usually made of leather with a hard handle and multiple long flat strands attached.

The term can also be used to describe the person holding the specialized whip. It was popularized in internet chatrooms, to make it easier to identify the orientation of the writer or the person being written about.

Also, some submissives eschew personal pronouns, instead referring to themselves as "this slave" or "Master Bob's girl". This is sometimes considered an expression of modesty, but it is an entirely optional method of depersonalizing a submissive during "play".

It may have roots in the military , where new recruits are required to refer to themselves as "this recruit", rather than "I" or "me".

Relationships may be monogamous or polyamorous. Fantasy role play can be an element, with partners taking classic dominant or submissive roles, or classic authority-figure roles such as teacher and student, police officer and suspect, or parent and child.

These variations may include:. Some examples are:. Consent is a vital element in all psychological play, and consent can be granted in many ways.

Some employ a written form known as a "Dungeon negotiation form", for others a simple verbal commitment is sufficient. There are many versions of consent but mainly it is the knowledge between the partnership of who plays the dominant role and who plays the submissive.

As well as the fact that all erotic experiences are performed in a safe, legal, and consensual practice as well as benefiting both parties.

Surface consent has been defined as a simple yes or no. The BDSM community have a simple code of conduct concerning the boundaries of safety and negotiation to ensure consensual BDSM.

Negotiation in terms of the sexual scenes is required to ensure that the BDSM play is enjoyable and safe for both parties involved. The discussion of what activities are available and the mutual definition of the play is the only way both the dominant and submissive will be able to comfortably perform.

Safewords are verbal codes both partners can recognize as the end or altering of activities done in a BDSM scene. It is an important asset to continue the consent through the relationship and scene itself.

All of it ensures a safe space where both participants are able to enjoy the sexual play. The BDSM community takes consent very seriously and promotes safe play.

They also provide public playrooms with dungeon monitors to make sure the rules are kept and followed. Although they take all the precautions to the events, coercion and sexual assault still occur inside and outside the community.

The National Coalition for Sexual Freedom NCSF is an educational organization that is driven to propose positive and safe sex that was founded in That being said just because someone participates in a dominant and submissive relationship does not mean they will eventually be sexually assaulted or coerced.

Consensual non-consensuality is a mutual agreement to act as if consent has been waived within safe, sane limits. It is an agreement that consent is given in advance, sometimes without foreknowledge of the exact actions planned, though within defined limits subject to a safeword, reasonable care, common sense, or other restrictions.

The consent is given with the intent of its being irrevocable under normal circumstances. Gentleness, subtlety, and finesse fit into the definition of the dominant.

In as much as you have the greater power, you need to show kindness and gentleness to your submissive. Be sensitive so you can create a comfortable atmosphere for the two of you.

A good dominant lets the submissive know if they are truly interested in the relationship or not.

Bear in mind that if you are the submissive, your work is to satisfy and serve your fellow human being so that they can focus on making your fantasies come true.

Sometimes the dominant may lack the experience that the submissive is looking for. Be ruthlessly honest with yourself too so that you can give your partner only the things you are in full control of.

Safety should be your first and most important concern no matter how safe a certain scene may come across. Dishonesty is not only problematic, but dangerous too.

If you are the submissive type, feel free to share your fantasies and needs because your dominant knows you have them.

Be very clear about what you want, what turns you off, as well as your health concerns. If you are not candid, you will experience lots of disappointments along the way because your dominant will be trying to satisfy you based on wrong information.

No matter how much you praise yourself, your true colors will show up somewhere along the way. Take this advice: do not develop expectations you are sure you cannot accomplish - it is like setting yourself up for failure.

You have to be open-minded. Most submissive partners expect to be controlled emotionally and physically, but not brutally. Let your submissive partner fall in love with who you really are so they can give themselves to you completely.

If you have to punish your submissive, do it appropriately and enforce authentic rules only. Since you understand your full responsibilities do not shirk any of them.

Accept that you are reliable and allow your partner to depend on you. For the submissive, you have to accept being owned, directed, and controlled because that is the whole point of being submissive.

Surrender all your power and raise genuine concerns when necessary. Because you have accepted limitations, stay within those limits and respect your dominant.

There is a thin line between the definition of caring and having a self-righteous attitude. A dominant partner should find the balance between fantasies and the needs of the submissive.

While the submissive is expected to act like a servant, the two partners should serve one another.

Wait to be surprised and guided as opposed to demanding your needs.

The definition of a submissive is an obedient, compliant person who likes to give up control. They crave being used and need to serve. They are the subservient partner of a relationship and that is why “sub” is always spelled with a lowercase while “Dom” is always capital. A submissive can take on many different roles such as. “If someone is very demanding and uses language like you have to act this way, says things like ‘a real Dom/sub does or doesn’t do this,’ or is shaming/pressuring you into moving too fast or doing. Dominant-submissive (D/s or Dom/sub) is part of a broader category referred to as BDSM. D/s is all about power as opposed to the physical sensation involved in BDSM. If you are in a D/s relationship you either submit to your partner or dominate them psychologically. As the dom, I've had her go down on me and take it out right when I was cumming and take it on her face, give me massages, and bend over for spankings. As the sub, I've had to give her back and foot massages, kiss her feet, give her lots of oral, get spanked, and eat her ass. D/s is first and foremost an energy dynamic that flows between two people. One person, the Dom, takes on more the role of leader, guide, enforcer, protector and/or daddy, while the other person. Vítejte na tomto webu, tyto webové stránky podporují takzvanou, jak jsme si to sami pojmenovali, inteligentní dominanci a submisivitu. Jsou pro všechny, kteří se cítí být dominantní nebo submisivní, bez rozdílu věku a pohlaví. Diese Komponenten der Liebe sind stets allein meiner Partnerin vorbehalten, dasselbe erwarte ich natürlich ebenfalls von Lesben Teens. Foto mit freundlicher Genehmigung von Goddess Aviva. Masochismus: Alles über die Lust am Schmerz.

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